Work, life, balance - what?! Forget about it. That single phrase brings me SO MUCH GUILT! Guilt that I can't balance enough to work and be home with my kids. As a SAHM (Stay-at-home Mom), I still can't manage to get a blog or vlog or etsy store or WHATEVER up and at 'em each day. But here's the thing - it's not about 'balance', but satiation.
What satiates my personhood? Here's a few things:
Rhythm. I just watched this fantastic live video about 'rhythm'. For some it may be 'routine'. Either way - it's vital in my life and my kids. I see the benefits of it in our household. Weekday mornings around here have a beautiful rhythm:
6a Wake with toddler - make lunches, coffee, breakfast (sometimes I get ready during this time) - 7a Dad home from work - 7:20/30a older boys awaken (dress, make their beds and come down for breakfast) - 7:50/8a Brush teeth and get book bags ready for school/mom gets ready for the day - 8:20/30 leave for school.
The boys have time to play after packing their bags and before we leave for school. It's a sight to see. They know: wake - dress - beds - breakfast - teeth - bags - play. It's amazing. And I love it. They are confident, secure and independent - happy.
I like to read. I am learning to take time out to read. One of my favorite things to read about? Parenting. I know - huge shocker. I now keep a book in the car door for just that reason (and knitting in the center console) when waiting in the epic car pick up line. My current read - Masterminds and Wingmen. Highly recommend whether you have boys or not.
Writing. I love to write. Communicating is paramount for me. One of the things that brought the hubs and I together. We are both talkers. And this space allows me to do that. Which is why I am back. It's going to take awhile to get back into this rhythm - but I am looking forward to it!
Grace is last. But most definitely not least. Granting myself the grace to rest. To fall asleep and take time. Just because I am a SAHM, doesn't mean I have to work on the house, this family, the kids, etc... until my bones ache and I can't stand any longer. I quit my job and career so I could minimize stresses in my life, making room to be a whole self. For the kids, my husband - and me. It's something I think a lot of SAHMs have difficulty with and can lead to some intense bouts of depression.
Working outside the home brought me anxiety, but being at home - secluded from adulthood, immersed in parent and spousal responsibilities accompanied with the never lightening load of guilt when taking time out can result in the mind dipping into a dark, dark place. That's when grace for self comes into play. Something I work desparetly on each day.
What do you think of 'balance'? Do you feel like grace could play a bigger part in your life? What are some of your must do's/have's?