So far, great books. I have utilized the Sears for many things. Breastfeeding, infant care, attachment parenting, vaccines - even Soren's birth. This is the first book I have actually purchased by the Sear duo. It's wonderful. Non-judgemental and in line with our personal beliefs.
Did you know 'grabbing is a common aggressive behavior in toddlers and young preschoolers'? You did, right? So did I. But I never took the time to relate that as 'model behavior'. Not when other children grab - when I do. I think, in the moment - I kept him from putting that penny in his mouth, I kept a mess of water and broken glass from making it to the floor or keeping Soren from breaking my eye glasses.
I may have prevented those things, but I didn't respect my 'little grabber'.
'Grabbing a prized object from a child for whatever reason is not socially appropriate.' page 37. Model behavior.
My new favorite authors, Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish have written How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk . It's not just a book of advice based on clinical experiences and references. It's full of role playing exercises, homework and interactive worksheets.
And I thought the Sears understood me?! This book heartily portrays the type of parent I want to be for Soren. Even the type of partner I'd like to be for Rick. This is about choosing our words well, respectfully and honoring another's need to express and be heard.
'It is when our words are infused with our real feelings of empathy that they speak directly to a child's heart'.